Het Uiterlijk

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VISSER278 schreef:

Arme Gert. Twijfelende smiley

wrom

ben zelf al over de datum Zieke smiley

hoeft die ander dan toch niet te zijn Smiley die vol vragen zit

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MARIJAN072 schreef:

en de parkeerplaats...... Uitdagende, speelse smiley die tong uitsteekt

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ANNETTE792 schreef:

je moet maar wanhopig graag een ban willen en het wil maar niet lukken he hannah Knipoog smiley

chrissie antwoord zn mail niet meer he, hahaha

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HANNAH810 schreef:

de groep zal wel te herkennen zijn aan de Rammelferrari van Hannah Uitdagende, speelse smiley die tong uitsteekt

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hannah's rammelferrari won't be there, I think, grifjuuuuh!!

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HANNAH810 schreef:

hannah's rammelferrari won't be there, I think, grifjuuuuh!!

Die hannah ...heb jij echt zo'n ferrari ...een echte racetante dus Clown smiley

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HANNAH810 schreef:

hannah's rammelferrari won't be there, I think, grifjuuuuh!!

oh, je rijdt met mij mee....ook goed! 't is dan wel in 'n Saab Coole smiley met zonnebril

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of is je Ferrari dan al gerecycled?

of je hebt geen zin in uitwaaien. kan natuurlijk ook Clown smiley

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GRIFFIN748 schreef:

oh, je rijdt met mij mee....ook goed! 't is dan wel in 'n Saab Coole smiley met zonnebril

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of is je Ferrari dan al gerecycled?

of je hebt geen zin in uitwaaien. kan natuurlijk ook Clown smiley

hihi...wat istie verliefd he.... Verlegen lachende smiley

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ANGELIQUE327 schreef:

hihi...wat istie verliefd he.... Verlegen lachende smiley

't is wat Queen in de jaren '70 al zong:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYkhy4Xe8Lw

The machine of a dream
Such a clean machine
With the pistons a pumpin
And the hub caps all gleam

When Im holdin your wheel
All I hear is your gear
When my hands on your grease gun
Oh it's like a disease son

Im in love with my car
Gotta feel for my automobile
Get a grip on my boy racer rollbar
Such a thrill when your radials squeal

Told my girl I'll have to forget her
Rather buy me a new carburetor
So she made tracks sayin
This is the end now
Cars don't talk back
They're just four wheeled friends now

When Im holdin your wheel
All I hear is your gear
When Im cruisin in overdrive
Don't have to listen to no run of the mill talk jive

Im in love with my car
Gotta feel for my automobile
Im in love with my car
String back gloves in my automolove

Uitdagende, speelse smiley die tong uitsteekt

voor 't overige deel van jouw opmerking is het jouw inlegkunde, dus jouw verantwoording... Smiley met dichtgeplakte mond

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ANGELIQUE327 schreef:

en ons!

kwestie van d u i d e l i j k afspreken

Boze smiley

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LEONARD480 schreef:

Die hannah ...heb jij echt zo'n ferrari ...een echte racetante dus Clown smiley

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23 - 01 - 2011 een lieve man mogen ontmoeten leek wel als liefde op het 1e gezicht. Verliefde smiley

In alle dingen brengen we in gebed of HEERE God ons voor elkaar bedoelt heeft. Want de Vader kent ieders leven en Hij is het Hoofd bij elk gesprek en situatie van het leven.
Wens iedereen Gods zegen toe !!!

Hartelijke groet,

Anita

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MIEKE364 schreef:

Die meiden gaan hem het vuur aan de schenen leggen, reken maar!!
Hij geeft er twee het idee dat ze het wordt en dat kan-ie beter niet doen, hè, vragen om problemen. Hij is er niet uit en ze glimlachen wel lief naar hem maar meer ook niet; ze zijn op hun hoede. Hij maakt een wat warrige en flirterige indruk naar alledrie, arme man.
Zelfs in de wereld draait door zat de tafel vol met Yvonne, exboer op zoek met ega en deskundigen die de laatste aflevering ontrafelden, lachen! Dus Willemijn, neem die aflevering ook even mee met uitzending gemist, dat mag je niet missen.......

Hoeft niet Mieke, ik heb het gezien! En als je er al te serieus naar keek dacht je: waar gaat dit over?????? Maar ja, eigenlijk genoot ik er ook wel weer van..... Knipoog smiley

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Wat prachtig, Anita

Mogge de Heere dat jullie elkaar als de ware liefde schenken.
Waar liefde woont, gebiedt de Heer den zegen

Gods zegen Anita Lachende smiley

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SUSANNAH475 schreef:

Ik ga een hele dikke knuffel geven aan Sweetlady.
Het was leuk om je weer te zien Sweetlady... !! Kussende smiley

Hoi Sus, dank je en was ook gezellig om jou ook weer te zien.
Knuffel voor jou ook.

Heb je trouwens je bordje nog leeg gekregen Knipoog smiley

Was in ieder geval wel lekker eten allemaal.

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Vertrokken

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NEVER TRUST A TRUST MOUSE

Mousie Mouse

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ANGELIQUE327 schreef:

hihi...wat istie verliefd he.... Verlegen lachende smiley

jaaaaaah
schattig he, angelique, dat gun je iedereen, toch?
alleen jammer dat het een Saab is, ik zou wel iets anders naast hem gezocht hebben, jij niet?

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GRIFFIN748 schreef:

kwestie van d u i d e l i j k afspreken Boze smiley

of effe mobiel belletje plegen Clown smiley

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ANGELIQUE327 schreef:

of effe mobiel belletje plegen Clown smiley

Moet je wel 'n mobiel nummer weten van een van de deelnemers of organisator...
En over m'n Saab: ze worden nog wel eens omschreven als 'ouwel*llenbakken', maar ik heb liever een ouwel*llenbak dan een emotieloze spleetogenbak.
Clown smiley

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GRIFFIN748 schreef:

Moet je wel 'n mobiel nummer weten van een van de deelnemers of organisator...
En over m'n Saab: ze worden nog wel eens omschreven als 'ouwel*llenbakken', maar ik heb liever een ouwel*llenbak dan een emotieloze spleetogenbak.
Clown smiley

Helemaal mee eens Griffin.....
Een auto met karakter dus...... Clown smiley

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PIETER649 schreef:

Mijn abo op cm verloopt volgend weekend.
Waarschijnlijk tot vreugde van sommigen verleng ik het niet. Lachende smiley

In bijna vier jaar heb ik vele leden persoonlijk ontmoet.
Daar zaten mensen tussen waar het contact mee zal blijven.
Ook mensen die ik inmiddels alweer vergeten ben.
Zelfs mensen die ik niet meer tegen hoop te komen. Uitdagende, speelse smiley die tong uitsteekt

Ik wens u allen ( dus ook de eikels onder u) een prettige voortzetting op cm.

Ondanks dat we niet samen door een deur kunnen Pieter!!!
Ik wens jou en Annette een fijne toekomst met de kinderen.
Gods zegen voor jullie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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PIETER649 schreef:

Mijn abo op cm verloopt volgend weekend.
Waarschijnlijk tot vreugde van sommigen verleng ik het niet. Lachende smiley

In bijna vier jaar heb ik vele leden persoonlijk ontmoet.
Daar zaten mensen tussen waar het contact mee zal blijven.
Ook mensen die ik inmiddels alweer vergeten ben.
Zelfs mensen die ik niet meer tegen hoop te komen. Uitdagende, speelse smiley die tong uitsteekt

Ik wens u allen ( dus ook de eikels onder u) een prettige voortzetting op cm.

Het doet mij vreugde dat je stopt...grijns..., omdat je gemotiveerd en vertrouwen hebt om dingen te bereiken die anders moeilijk zijn. Knipoog smiley

Ik wens jou en Annette Gods vrede en zegen toe......

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Ok, hier is een recensie over dat boek:

The following book review appeared in the newsletter of the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment. Click here for an exercise based on Principle 1.

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver
Crown Publishers, Inc. New York, 271 pages -- 1999
A Book Review by Bea Strickland
Dr. John Gottman, professor of psychology at the University of Washington and founder of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, has studied hundreds of couples in amazing detail. He watched and recorded couples interacting in comfort and during arguments and is able to predict with 91% accuracy whether a couple will divorce.

He's written about the seven principles that he believes will prevent a marriage from breaking up.
First, he points out signs of trouble:
• A harsh start to a complaint
• Criticism: being negative about character or personality or name calling.
• Contempt: sarcasm, sneering, hostile humor, put-downs.
• Defensiveness
• Stonewalling: refusing to talk.
• Flooding: becoming overwhelmed emotionally with adrenaline pumping and heartbeat raised.
• Failed repair attempts: rejected apologies, unable to de-escalate the tension
• Bad memories: forgetting or rewriting past happiness.
Then he goes on to describe his seven principles. The chapters describing the principles have wonderful, extensive exercises which would be a delight to use as a couple or in a group. A couple could use questions as a game or a conversation starter during a walk or at dinner.

The first principle, Enhance Your Love Maps, is about knowing your spouse very well. It suggests knowing day to day habits and values as well as history. A question might be about a partner's best friends or current stresses.
The second principle is Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration which Dr. Gottman believes is the antidote to contempt.
The third principle is Turn Toward Each Other. Connect with each other in chitchat, acknowledge and respond to comments and bids for attention. Agree with your partner as much as you can and build your friendship.
Principle four is Let Your Partner Influence You. Don't let your need to be right stop you from hearing the insight, truth or possibility of your partner's suggestions. Contrary to the publicity this idea received it doesn't mean ,saying "Yes, dear." always, but in accepting that your partner's point of view has merit. Learn from each other, yield and become a team. Considerable time is spent discussing the difference between solvable problems and perpetual problems.
He names principle five, Solve Your Solvable Problems. Here he recommends: soften your start up of complaints; learn to make and accept repair attempts when disagreements are escalating; soothe yourself and each other; be tolerant of each other's faults.
John Gottman has made comments to the press and in speeches that communication skills are not all that valuable, that people don't or can't use them. In the chapter on solving problems, however, he suggests "I statements" to soften the startup and de-escalate tension. Gottman also uses active listening (though not by that name) to understand a partner's viewpoint.
Principle Six is Overcome Gridlock. Gottman says to keep working on the unresolvable problems. You'll be more satisfied than if you give up on them. Sometimes you are each entrenched in your own need. If you can begin to dialog about the dreams that fuel your desires, the understanding may point to possible solutions to your problem.
The last principle, Create Shared Meaning is about values and growth in the relationship. "Marriage isn't just about raising kids. splitting chores and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together -- a culture rich with symbols and rituals, and an appreciation for the roles and goals that link you, that lead you to understand what it means to be a part of the family you have become."

Right up to the last page there are exercises to enhance your relationship! John Gottman suggests the "Magic Five Hours" per week to keep your marriage alive and wonderful. Spend time in stress reducing conversations, having a date, giving admiration, appreciation and affection along with keeping up with your partner's day to day joys and challenges.

It was with some trepidation that I began this book because each time I heard John Gottman speak or read about him, I understood that he thought communication skills weren't indicative of success or helpful to a lasting relationship. Maybe I was too sensitive to those comments because I believe he substantiates with everything that A.C.M.E. believes and teaches. He suggests communication on a great variety of subjects and levels. I can't wait to use this book in a group and to do more of the exercises with Jim.
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Who Am I
An exercise based on Principle I, Enhance Your Love Maps
Set aside 30 - 40 minutes for this exercise.
• Step I. Print out this page. With your partner, read the material and select one topic to discuss. Each of you may select a different topic.
• Step II. Write for 10 minutes on the topic. You don't need to write on all the areas that Dr. Gottman suggests -- just on one or two of those that you want to discuss at this time.
• Step III. Swap papers with your spouse and discuss your responses. Give each partner 10 minutes to talk. When your partner is talking, use your listening skills. Don’t argue, don’t give advice, don’t add or subtract, don’t talk about your opinions or feelings -- just listen.
At another time
Finish the discussion. At a convenient time, take up some more of the questions, either writing and talking, or just talking.
The following material is excerpted from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver.
The more you know about each other's inner world, the more profound and rewarding your relationship will be. This questionnaire is designed both, to guide you through some self-exploration and to help you share this, exploration with your partner. Work on this exercise even if you and your spouse consider yourselves open books. There's always more to know about each other. Life changes us, so neither of you may be the same person who spoke those wedding vows two, ten, or fifty years ago.

Many of the questions in this exercise are powerful. Please make sure you have enough time and privacy to do them justice. In fact, it may be best to reserve this exercise for an uninterrupted stretch when you do not have work to do, deadlines to meet, phone calls to answer, or children (or anybody else) to look after. Most likely you won't be able to complete this questionnaire in one sitting, nor should you try. Instead, break it up by sections and do it slowly, over time together.
Answer the questions in each section as candidly as you can, You don't have to answer every aspect of each question -- just respond to the parts that are relevant to your life. Write your answers in your private journal or notebook. If writing so much is hard, you can do it in outline form -- but the process of writing this down is important to the success of the exercise. When you're ready, exchange notebooks and share with each other what you have written. Discuss each other's entries and what this added knowledge implies for your marriage and the deepening of your friendship.
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My Triumphs and Strivings
1. What has happened in your life that you are particularly proud of? Write about your psychological triumphs, times when things went even better than you expected, periods when you came through trials and tribulations even better off. Include periods of stress and duress that you survived and mastered, small events that may still be of great importance to you, events from your childhood or the recent past, self-created challenges you met, periods when you felt powerful, glories and victories, wonderful friendships you maintained, and so on.
2. How have these successes shaped your life? How have they affected the way you think of yourself and your capabilities? How have they affected your goals and the things you strive for?
3. What role has pride (that is, feeling proud, being praised, expressing praise for others) played in your life? Did your parents show you that they were proud of you when you were a child? How? How have other people responded to your accomplishments?
4. Did your parents show you that they loved you? How? Was affection readily expressed in your family? If not, what are the effects and implications of this for your marriage?
5. What role does pride in your accomplishments play in your marriage? What role do your own strivings have in your marriage? What do you want your partner to know and understand about these aspects of your self, your past, present, and plans for the future? How do you show pride in one another?

My Injuries and Healings
1. What difficult events or periods have you gone through? Write about any significant psychological insults and injuries you have sustained, your losses, disappointments, trials, and tribulations. Include periods of stress and duress, as well as any quieter periods of despair, hopelessness, and loneliness.
Also include any deep traumas you have undergone as a child or adult. For example, harmful relationships, humiliating events, even molestation, abuse, rape, or torture.
2. How have you survived these traumas? What are their lasting effects on you?
3. How did you strengthen and heal yourself? How did you redress your grievances? How did you revive and restore yourself?
4. How did you gird and protect yourself against this ever happening again?
5. How do these injuries and the ways you protect and heal yourself affect your marriage today? What do you want your partner to know and understand about these aspects of your self?

My Emotional World
1. How did your family express the following when you were a child:
• Anger
• Sadness
• Fear
• Affection
• Interest in one another
2. During your childhood, did your family have to cope with a particular emotional problem, such as aggression between parents, a depressed parent, or a parent who was somewhat emotionally wounded? What implications does this have for your marriage and your other close relationships (friendships, relationships with your parents, your siblings, your children)?
3. What is your own philosophy about expressing feelings, particularly sadness, anger, fear, pride, and love? Are any of these difficult for you to express or to see expressed by your spouse? What is the basis of your perspective on this?
4. What differences exist between you and your spouse in the area of expressing emotion? What is behind these differences? What are the implications of these differences for you?

My Mission and Legacy
1. Imagine that you are standing in a graveyard looking at your own tombstone. Now write the epitaph you would like to see there. Begin with the words: "Here lies ..."
2. Write your own obituary. (It does not have to be brief.) How do you want people to think of your life, to remember you?
3. Now you're ready to write a mission statement for your own life. What is the purpose of your life? What is its meaning? What are you trying to accomplish? What is your larger struggle?
4. What legacy would you like to leave when you die?
5. What significant goals have you yet to realize? This can be creating something, or having a particular experience. Minor examples are learning to play the banjo, climbing a mountain, and so on. Take a moment now to reflect on what you have just written. We are all involved in becoming the person we most want to be. In that struggle we all have demons to fight and overcome.

What I Want To Become
1. Describe the person you want to become.
2. How can you best help yourself become that person?
3. What struggles have you already faced in trying to become that person?
4. What demons in yourself have you had to fight? Or still have to fight?
5. What would you most like to change about yourself?
6. What dreams have you denied yourself or failed to develop?
7. What do you want your life to be like in five years?
8. What is the story of the kind of person you would like to be?
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To visit Dr. Gottman's web site at www.gottman.com

o, ja, dit is in het Engels. Voordat iemand op het idee komt dit te vertalen, ga er eens een keer mee stoeien. Als je Havo Engels hebt gehad, kun je dit met gemak lezen...

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HANNAH810 schreef:

jaaaaaah
schattig he, angelique, dat gun je iedereen, toch?
alleen jammer dat het een Saab is, ik zou wel iets anders naast hem gezocht hebben, jij niet?

zoals wat dan? als ik vragen mag...
voor mij is het alternatief voor Saab 9000 een Citroën Xantia. alles kleiner dan dat is mij te krap

overigens wel weer lekker off-topic Clown smiley

sorry, Herman

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Graag een nederlandse vertaling,
Dan snap ik het.

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HANNAH810 schreef:

jaaaaaah
schattig he, angelique, dat gun je iedereen, toch?
alleen jammer dat het een Saab is, ik zou wel iets anders naast hem gezocht hebben, jij niet?

Hannah...pas op... Smiley met dichtgeplakte mond

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als ik nou eens niets zeg, valt het dan niet op dat ik te dom ben om dit zomaar effies snel weg te lezen???
ik kan het wel vertalen, maar t kost me teveel moeite onder een relaxed bakkie koffie, chatuliem.
giving up......

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hm...HAVO-Engels, he? dan hoef ik er niet aan te beginnen met MAVO-Engels (al dan niet met Nieuwzeelands accent). scheelt me een hoop tijd.